BABY STEPS.......Taken from the movie 'What About Bob'

HAPPY POSITIVE FRIDAY DARLINS  Wake up & let's get busy living 


'Baby Steps',Dear loves, one baby step at a time. I always use this quote for those who reach out my way with life's daily battles in being a survivor. Our days are quite dark at times and others are filled with great joys. Hang onto the good and allow them to be your ladder, your guide to living the life YOU choose.

 'One baby step at a time' to me, is taken from the excellent movie with Richard Dreyfuss & Bill Murray; 'What about Bob'. Well Bob is a character suffering from many different forms of mental illness, Agoraphobia, Hypochondriac, Anxiety, Depression, and reveals the funny side of what can sometimes happen when we allow ourselves to be absorbed in life with the difficulties rather than the happiness. Bob Murray is one of my favorite actors and Richard Dreyfuss plays an excellent role as the psychiatrist who is caught up in personal time with family vaca & ego, but tries hard to keep Bob challenging himself and his own growth in overcoming his daily struggles by first getting out of bed and then TAKING ONE SMALL BABY STEP AT A TIME. By the end of the movie Bob is quite relieved that indeed the Baby Step process has helped him become a happier man, that and spending time actively spending time w/ the Dr.'s children and putting himself through the process of facing his fears, by proceeding with courage in ONE SMALL BABY STEP AT A TIME.

 In life we never know what might have happened to another person. We see them struggle with emotional sadness or challenges and we say, 'My goodness their hopeless'. In a way they are because of how they are viewed. It plagues them, because they see how other people see them, or if our perception of ourselves has been altered at all by deviate acts of another, then we may talk ourselves into believing their is judgement when there is not. For those of us who wake with the very first thought in their heads each day; 'I've got to make it through with a smile and be a positive person today'. Well dears; Brighten your beautiful smile, put on your most marvelous looking clothes, open the door to life and give them a true example of all that you are, then take that one first challenge; ONE SMALL BABY STEP AT A TIME. 

<3 My best to all of my dear online & locals friends who wake to this struggle every day, no matter what might be causing the doubt in your world. My prayer for all of us, May we all take on our life as intended the day we were born and show just how amazing you really are, love & hugs babes 
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13628816-my-justice

One of my favorite songs, Happy Girl > Martina McBride :) enjoy!!!

Reaching out to locals - St. Louis & Chicago

Reaching out to connect with the survivors of abuse in my local area. I would like to invite you to connect with me and also to encourage you to share your story. Dreamcatchers for Abused Children has brought me on board with their blog talk radio programming to give the survivors of abuse a place to share their story; anonymously, so that we can create a wave of awareness against these crimes across the world. There is also a safe group online that I have created for women who have been or are now suffering in the silence of abuse. We can help you to find the right contacts to give you support or work with you to find a shelter if needed; we are here to support whatever your daily situation may bring, good or bad.

You will see a link below that shows an article in the Belleville News Democrat; my story was then sent out across the country; carried in over 40 different news sites,
(i.e. washington post, chicago tribune, desert news). In February of 2011, I published my horrific story of a life stolen away by the sadistic and severely neglectful crimes of my mother and stepfather. The novel is titled, "My Justice" and it is written to give the little girl I once was the voice she never had. The abuse I suffered for twelve continuous years as a child until I finally left home at seventeen, actually trained me into a pattern of accepting the abuses against me in my adult relationships. It also trapped me in a world of covering up who I really was inside and carrying the secrets I was too ashamed and too terrified to speak about.

The pattern of life that followed for over twenty years was one of self destructive behavior involving alcohol, smoking weed, being with the wrong men, always seeking attention from men, and making a lot of the wrong choices. This unfortunately reflected on how I was as a mother and the influence my decisions had on my children's lives. The chaos that filled the lives of my children's home is a burden of guilt I may never be able to forgive myself for, mainly because they grew up watching their mother get beaten, degraded, seeing me drunk at times as they got older, even knowing that I was smoking weed to get through my days. How do you think my decisions as a broken soul and YOUR decisions and pattern of behavior effect your children?

This is why I am working hard to bring our survivor voices together. It is truly a deep sense of peace when you can honestly start speaking about the person you are inside. It allows you to view how the choices you have made were directly reflected by the abuses and secrets you carry. That pattern leaves a strong affect on your children's lives and the cycle of bad behavior and abuse is carried forward. Your children are then forced to carry the secrets of what they see in their home. They feel the pain of their mother as she is getting beaten and destructed by the man she loves. It passes into their relationships and creates a pattern of bad choices and possibly shame from abuse by someone they trust.

It is my belief that the cycle of abuse will not stop until we, as survivors, create a wave of awareness and voices to speak out against it and truly start making the changes in our behavior to change the way it affects our children. This is the reason I am reaching out to all of you. Please join me on the show "Survivors Speak Out" or even join in with our women's support group online, "Survivors World", if you would like to have some positive and encouraging support as you start to come forward about the honesty of your past. I have provided all the links below for; my book, the blog talk radio program; and my facebook connection to join in with our private group.

SURVIVORS CAN MAKE A CHANGE FOR A SAFER TOMORROW!!!!

We all deserve to have justice for our pain,

We all deserve to have safety and peace within our homes,

We all deserve to be loved and respected,

We all deserve to have roses in our garden of life!!

Thank you for giving your time and thought at reading this blog. I beg you now to please reach out and pass it forward. There are MILLIONS OF SURVIVORS living amongst our society and each of us has a voice inside that is screaming out for our own justice against the crimes we have suffered. Now is the time to join in with us to help spread this message. No longer will our voices stay silent and carry the secrets that will pass on to our children.

Bless you all,

Tricia A. McKnight

Author: "My Justice"

Founder: "Survivors World" women's online support group

Blog Talk Radio Host: "Survivors Speak Out"
Dreamcatchers Blog Tald Radio Programing

Links to the above:

"My Justice":
Authorhouse.com: http://bookstore.authorhouse.com/Products/SKU-000373503/My-Justice.aspx

Amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/My-Justice-Patricia-McKnight/dp/1452071691/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1325683342&sr=1-1

Barnes&Noble.com: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/my-justice-patricia-a-mcknight/1100371904?ean=9781452071695&itm=1&usri=my+justice

Blog Talk Radio Program: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dreamcatchers/2012/01/07/survivors-speak-out

Facebook Connection: http://www.facebook.com/triciagirl62

News Article: http://belleville.com/2011/12/31/1997851/spotlight-ill-woman-shares-her.html#storylink=misearch